It takes a certain mindset and discipline if we want to achieve the happiness and success we want in our lives. We have to become aware and vigilant with how we approach life and business, and realize the power of our attitudes and choices that shape our reality. Our mindset determines how we direct our mental, emotional and physical energy in everyday living and deal with what life throws at us.
While there are many success mindsets to master, having worked with clients in my Results Coaching program and my personal experience, here are my top 8 mindsets to set you up for success:
Creating any kind of change in life, whether it’s starting a business, changing vocation, embarking a new life path, or doing anything you haven’t done before, you have to anticipate how you’re going to do it so that you can plan for it to be successful.
When you lack planning and don’t have a frame of reference for what you’re going to experience, it seems foreign and it may cause confusion and anxiety.
Firstly, your reptilian brain goes into fight or flight mode - as that’s its main purpose – to protect you and keep you safe from the unknown. And because it doesn’t know what its dealing with and you don’t have a frame of reference, when it shows up, you won’t always know what to do with it.
It generally starts with an idea, then a concept, then a vision, and then you start taking action and things start to happen. And in that process, you have to set yourself up to deal with the emotional, physical and mental changes that may or may not occur.
In anticipating change, you need to get real about how that change is going to affect everything in your life – your money, your energy, your health, your time, your resources and the people you care about. With foresight you can then plan on how you are going to deal with each aspect, anticipate what kind of challenges you’ll encounter and have solutions in place that will support you in getting to where you want to be.
In making ourselves successful, we often have to first make space for what we want to come in, which means some things (in some cases, a lot) need to go – this may include people, situations, habits and belief patterns that hold us back and it can be very challenging letting go of what is familiar but that we know we can’t take with us.
Through the power of anticipation, you not only anticipate and prepare for what’s ahead, but when things come up while you’re going through it, you’ve already equipped yourself with strategies and coping mechanisms to get through it.
Without the hunger and desire to go after what you want, you’re not really going to get anywhere. This is what is going to fuel you, move you forward and get you through the challenges you’re going to encounter while you’re making things happen.
It’s going to take maintenance, sustenance, endurance and strength, and you’ve got to be committed to doing better than you did yesterday and to prepare yourself for whatever that means because there will be some challenging situations and decisions that are going to come up on your journey. Your self-motivation is going to come from how strong your desire is to have what you want.
You are the average of the five people you hang around. You really want to be around people who motivate you to be the best you can be, who support you, who you can confide in, people who are smarter than you, people who are more organized than you, who have a better or different skill set than you – people you can learn from and help you grow. You want to be around people who elevate each other, feel joyful, are energized and are authentic.
When we’re with people who are not aligned to our success, we stay stuck, we doubt ourselves, we tend to not make the best decisions, we keep ourselves small and we consume a lot of energy in trying to maintain those relationships – energy that could be spent on expanding our business, doing the things we love and spending it with the people who actually make us feel good.
The reality is that we often just outgrow relationships and while letting go of these relationships can be painful at times, you have to look at it from a different perspective. It’s not personal, it’s called growing (up). Some peoples’ journey will align with yours as you move forward and others not, and that’s ok.
Association is powerful, because it incorporates everything you’re associated to. What you listen to, what you watch, what you read, what your share on social media. Do a quick audit in these areas and assess if you’re surrounding, listening, watching and sharing information that actually brings value into your life and those of others, elevates your personal brand and helps you get closer to what you want to achieve in life.
If you don’t have access to the people you really want to associate with, start by reading books, blogs and podcasts of people who are achieving success already. My personal favorite is listening to podcasts. I love that you can listen to them at anytime, anywhere and you can choose what you want to listen to. They’re the perfect traffic buster and have become a habit that I’ve incorporated to keep me motivated and inspired.
I listen to podcasts of people who are successful based on my own definition of success, who are on the same journey as I am, who share their experiences, what they have learnt, what tools they use and give insights into how they have achieved success in other areas of their lives. My favorite podcasts are Entrepreneurs on Fire, The Tim Ferris Show, Amy Porterfield, The Lead Generation and the Mastin Kipp Podcast. There are so many amazing people sharing their stories and skills to help others, it would be worth your while to spend some time in finding those that resonate with you and learn all you can from them to accelerate your success in all areas of your life.
Having a growth mindset is the belief that you are in control of your own ability, that you can learn and improve yourself to be successful.
In order to develop a growth mindset, you must be prepared to learn - learn about yourself, learn from your failures, learn from success, learn about your customers, learn about people, learn technology, learn tools, learn new ways of doing, thinking and being. You can’t really move forward if you’re wanting to hang onto the old way doing things.
A way of developing a strong growth mindset is to view the challenges you're encountering from a learning perspective as opposed to feeling like a victim or not having any options available to you. This means approaching challenging situations with the question "What is this teaching me?". This question is really powerful because it removes the blaming and shaming of the situation, and empowers you to look at the situation more objectively, which in turn, helps you to think more clearly in coming up with solutions. By taking this approach, you give yourself permission to be ok with learning as you grow and eliminate the unnecessary pressure of having to have the answers all of the time.
Another way to develop a growth mindset is to work with a coach who has expertise in a specific area that you may need help with. I’ve personally worked with a money coach, a business coach and a life coach over the last five years because I just didn’t have all the skills myself and I didn’t know people who could help me get to where I wanted to be. All of the coaches I’ve worked with advocate self-investment which means that you actually need to invest in yourself to make yourself better – in business and personally. Working with someone who you resonate with and who’s already achieved the success you want is gold and worth every cent if are willing to learn and apply their teachings. You automatically expand your perception of what is available to you and you’ll naturally start attracting like-minded people that will introduce you to other people, who not only introduce you to tools and resources that help you get to where you want to be but open you up to other opportunities. When you’re open to learning, you increase your potential and the possibilities to expand.
You have to take daily, consistent and intentional action towards what you want to achieve in life and in business. You have to do it habitually until it becomes automatic.
We are creatures of habit. We already have routines that we execute without even thinking about it and where we want to create change in our lives, we need to accept that it's going to take some effort in creating success focused habits.
The good news is that it only takes 30 days to implement a new habit and while the initial stages are met with resistance, once you get into flow with it, do it enough, think and feel it enough, it becomes involuntary. This means that you can create new success focused habits that form routines, reprogramming how you work and what you spend your energy on so that you drive your own success.
Ideally you want to have a morning success ritual that sets you up for the day. You want to feel emotionally, mentally and physically strong and you want to set yourself up for maximum productivity so that you get the most results out of your day.
Another important habit to create is quality rejuvenation - to rest, recharge and refuel. To give yourself time to replenish improves your energy, clarity and drive.
Unfortunately, we can’t manage time and we can’t control it. We have to learn to manage ourselves. By managing ourselves, we take self-responsibility and we avoid projecting our inability to manage ourselves when we focus on not having enough time.
This is why creating success focused habits is essential to us achieving our desires and personal success. When we think about how available and accessible we are to other people, how we indulge in low grade entertainment such as sensory stimulation, idle gossip, guilty pleasures and TV, and we use our time to start enjoying the activities that, directly or indirectly bring us more results, we’ll manage our time better and achieve more.
I like to focus on high-value lifetime activities, where I'm either working on my business and marketing initiatives, or spending time on the things that feed my soul, keep me connected to the activities and people I love and fuel my cups mentally, emotionally and physically. The reality is that if you’re spending energy on things that don’t align with your high-value lifetime activities, then you’re really just wasting your time and your energy, and who's got time for that?
We live in a culture of instant gratification. Everybody wants a quick fix and while there are many promises made out there, for the important things in life – like relationships, health and money, there aren’t many and we have put in the work to get the sustainable and long term results that we want.
It’s a continuous process that requires continuous attention and energy. Your results are going to be dependent on how badly you want it and what you’re prepared to do to obtain it. To master yourself and achieve what you want in life and in business, is going to take doing the work.
Fear only turns into worry, which leads to more fear and worry, and worry is really a waste of time. It keeps us stuck and indecisive. The best way to eliminate fear is to be as productive as you can be.
By being more productive you will feel more in control of where you are going and how you are going to get there, fear less and be more inspired. It's also the most constructive way to face your fears and help you stay focused while you’re in the trenches going through it.
I like to list the key goals of my businesses in detail and break them into bite-size activities so that when I am struggling to focus in moments of fear and uncertainty, I can focus on getting things done on that list without having to really think about it. I have a tool that I can easily access to help me refocus my attention instead of getting caught up in the paralysis of fear which causes unnecessary delays and consumes an immense amount of mental and emotional energy that could be spent on getting things done.
In order to achieve the success you want in life, you must become the next best version of yourself – which means being prepared to take your thinking, your self-image and your self-esteem to the next level and by letting go of the old ways of thinking, doing and being.
Your mindset is the driving force behind your thoughts and actions and is essential to achieving personal and business success. You have to become ruthless with your energy so that you have enough of it to deal with what ever comes up and you have to equip yourself with the knowledge, tools and a new mindset to go after what you want.